"When you hear something you either don’t understand or agree with and you feel a judgmental attitude sprouting, dig it up. Don’t let it take root because it will grow weeds that kill your opportunity to learn and love the people around you, it will grow vines that suffocate any chance of compassion growing for one another, and eventually, if you let it take root and grow, it will construct a barricade that closes you into the lonely solidarity of self-righteousness."
I got humbled by the ocean tonight. That all happens to us once in a while at the most unpredictable times to put us in check.
Parks On Fire // 35mm Septuple Exposure
jessica—penny brings a new meaning to multiple exposures - mesmerizing and beautiful.
"You think it’s cool to hate things. And it’s not. It’s boring. Talk about what you love and keep quiet about what you don’t."
Zibby (Liberal Arts)
"We’ve been taught in today’s world that being negative = being realistic, and being optimistic = being unrealistic. I’m not sure where this equation came from, but it’s totally bullshit."
by Careless Edition on Flickr.
"Waking up to who you are requires letting go of who you imagine yourself to be."
"Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it."
"Someone told you today that you were close but not enough, or they withheld encouragement, or they said an inadvertently painful thing that’s still playing a loop in your head. If that’s you: it’s okay. We all have those days when we’re tired and vulnerable. Sometimes the words bounce off, but other days they stick and sting. Don’t let it run your decisions. Don’t let it say who you are. Don’t let a bad day turn into a bad month. Dont let it determine your worth. Eat your favorite snack, watch a show, say a prayer, and sleep early. Life turns around in the morning quicker than you’d think, because that’s life. You are bigger than the words that people say."
"You might have failed somewhere else, completely fallen on your face in a mushroom cloud you caused, and it haunts you now as you enter the next season of life. But as you receive a second chance in your new opportunities: give yourself a chance too. Don’t allow former hurts to become a filter in which you approach others. Don’t instantly assume that similar behaviors and attitudes from your last situation can be accusations against the new one. Approach each decision with a fresh set of eyes, free of suspicion and paranoia, but most of all, without judging yourself by the weight of what happened before.
It is easy to pass on the pain we received in a never-ending vicious cycle — but we can choose in our new seasons to cut that loop, to interrupt our old patterns with new life, to absorb the hurt with grace, to allow our wounds to heal into a strength we could not have previously known. Re-build and re-create. It’s how we move forward. It’s how we got the second chance at all: because someone risked that chance on us first."
This is so relevant and exactly what I needed to hear.
Don’t one-up someone else’s story.
If your buddy has just told you about something really embarrassing that he did, or complained about her stupid boss, or told you about how his last apartment was a nightmare, do not say any of the following:
"I’ve got an even better one."
"Something even worse happened to me!"
Story-sharing is not a competition. Let your friends tell their stories, and then you can tell yours. But do not try to tell anyone that your experiences are more hilarious or awkward or painful. If they are, people will figure it out on their own. And if they’re not, who cares? Just tell your stories and have a good time.